Why is it that some people think it's ok to do whatever they please, regardless of how it affects other people? Why do they feel they have a right to enter you private life and make it their business to broadcast all manner of tales, whether true or untrue? Do they really think that it makes them important or attractive to the eyes and ears that are exposed to these people and their words?
I was brought up to behave in a completely different way. My parents taught me to respect other people, to mind my own business, and to be careful not to s.peak in ways that would hurt the feelings of others. They taught me to be kind, to be forgiving, to see the good in people. I can't say that I have always heeded my upbringing, but I've learned that it's best to live just the way my parents taught me.
You may be wondering what brought this on. Let me say just this, recently some very gullible people followed a ring-leader in an attack of wicked lies, hurtful words and actions against someone I'm close to. There was no cause for their behavior, but they got their desired results by hurting my friend and her family. They have also gotten some results that they may not have thought about. They are being looked upon now in a very unbecoming light, which will affect their own lives as far as friendships are concerned. I guess it's true. If you want to be respected, act respectful.
I hurt for my friend's family, and I'm also proud of them for not striking back. They are better than that. They are sweet people who believe that people are basically good. This time they chose the wrong ones to befriend. I am a strong believe that 'this too shall pass' and they will move on, but it may be that their faith in people will be sorely affected by this. They are hurt now, but they will heal in time.
As for the hurtful ones? No one needs to retaliate against their evil railings. They are painting their own life's works...and I believe they will receive every ounce of payment for their behaviors. There seems to be always someone who is bigger, someone who is a greater bully, and no doubt, they will run into that one sooner or later. Already they've lost some others that they called 'friends'. Do not be fooled...there is great truth in 'You reap what you sow.' I think that these people will find it out in due time.
Meanwhile, it solidifies for me that I must practice what I was taught as I was growing up. That is the right way to live.